other people are scary and dangerous!

And all this leads us to our first deductive Generalization about Other People:

Other People not only think you are unpredictable, dangerous, hard to understand; they think you are necessary. They fucking want you! Hard as it can be to believe in certain circumstances, they fucking love you, crave you, need you. They want desperately to be accepted by you. People who don't fucking know you - they want you.

Special Bonus Tip: This little generalization can come in handy sometimes when you are dealing with the puzzling and intimidating presence of Other People in your world. Naturally, you want to predict and understand them while rendering them less dangerous and necessary. And so using our handy 4 part formula and our handy gigantic Generalization, you will

Predict that they will behave as though they sometimes find you unpredictable, dangerous, and hard to understand yet they will simultaneously want and need you because
You understand that they all share this basic human need and you will realize that
They are not as dangerous as they could be because they need you as much as you need them which will make you realize that
Even if some of them should accidentally prove to be very very dangerous there are many many Other People out there all of whom need Other People which it just so happens is exactly what you happen to be! Which insight of course somewhat reduces the necessariness of any individual Other People who happen to be fucking you up at the moment.

Of course, like all Generalizations, this particular one will prove to be completely fucking untrue in many instances. Some Other People will insist on being dangerous and not needing you and they won't act like anything comprehensible such as a person like yourself who needs Other People to survive. Some people will just be All Fucked Up. And sometimes these Fucked Up People will be crucial and even inescapable elements of your environment.

But - if you pretend that Other People are just like you in that they suffer Loneliness, and Embarrassment and Hatred of Rejection, and Affection, and Bonding, and Desire for Companionship, and the rigors of a big Social Brain, and Need for Acceptance and so on - and therefore slather them with soothing Acceptance and Compassion and Understanding and Other Things They Need - they will often cave right before your very eyes and stop acting like Dangerous Other People and start acting like putty in your hands instead! They fucking need you! They think You like them! God, they fucking love you!

This will in no way work with everyone, but it will often work with People Who Seem Scary at First. It may take a little bit of scanning and plotting and strategizing to figure out where their Need for Other People is hiding but it's there. When you are feeling a bit overwhelmed and daunted by Other People, this can be a very fucking handy thing to know. Your secret fucking weapon, this pretending that Other People need the Other Peopleness in you. You rule!

Okay, enough about how you rule. Let's move on to more about dangerousness and fear!

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